Posts Tagged ‘chastity


Things about slavery that make me hot

I read a blog post over at Miss D’s blog today, it’s one of a series where she is discussing various types of Mistresses and how they feminize their slaves. Now the ‘why’ the whole feminization thing appeals to me is probably something for another post – but this particular post talked about the “sadistic domme”, which as I was reading really just spelled out a whole lot of fantasies that I have in my head about how I would like my slavery to be. There were a few lines in particular that grabbed my attention that I wanted to share:

She knows how to make you helpless and vulnerable – it’s Her goal to keep you that way – permanently.

If I was to try to come up with one line that summed up the way I want to feel as a slave this hits the nail right on the head. I crave that feeling of helplessness, not having any control over things, and I want my wife to be the one to make me feel like that.

She will almost certainly want you kept in chastity – tease and torment is so much better for you that way.”

I wrote a post about how I feel about chastity a little while back, so I’ll just refer to that for this one.

She is likely to have you pierced in multiple places and may have you tattooed to mark you permanently as Her submissive.”

The whole piercing and tattoo thing is something that scares the hell out of me, but I can’t seem to get the idea out of my head. Again, something I might write a post about in the near future as well

Now there are plenty of other things in that post that make my cock twitch just thinking about it, but you can go and read it for yourself if you like. At the very least its acted as something else to stimulate my imagination, which I always enjoy 🙂


Thoughts on chastity devices

If you go and have a bit of a search around the web for stuff relating to male submission to women, you will no doubt stumble across something to do with chastity devices and keeping us boys from having that sort of fun when no one is watching. You will probably have also noticed that there are two sides to this topic – both agree with the fact that the Mistress should have control over the man and his erections/masturbation/orgasms etc, but its how this is achieved that differs. One group will say that when a man submits to a woman, he should be able to demonstrate enough self restraint to not touch himself without permission, and that there is no need for chastity devices, the other group says that men can’t be trusted and should be locked up and only let out at the Mistress’s discretion (if at all). I’ll put it out there now that i am in the latter group, but not necessarily because i don’t think i could be trusted though.

We currently own a CB2000 chastity device, and in previous attempts at making something work for this type of relationship i used to wear it all the time, 24×7 for days at a time usually. The device itself doesn’t really bother me (sometimes it gets a little uncomfortable but a lot of the time i can barely tell its there) like it does for a lot of people out there (again, looking through forums and web pages a lot of people say most of the plastic ones are incredibly uncomfortable). i was often told that i could take it of to sleep or if it was getting uncomfortable that i could have a break, but more often than not i would choose to keep it on. Why you ask? Well the answer has two parts – firstly, it was a constant reminder of my place and my choice to submit, and secondly it meant that i was horny all the time, which helped me keep my head in that submissive space.

So thinking about the first part there – the constant reminder. i spend a lot of time thinking about ‘kinky’ stuff – i mean a lot of time. So if i already spent all of this time thinking about it, why do i need a constant reminder? Well for me its about the specific trains of though i have i think. When i’m not locked up i find myself thinking about random little fantasies, nothing too major, but its more in the quantity over quality category. When i’m locked up i find myself constantly thinking about my wife, the woman with the key, the woman to whom i give all the power. i think about the ways that i can serve her and ways that she can have her way with me and torture me and the whole kinky thoughts thing takes on a very specific train of thought that revolves around her. i think there is much more of a psychological angle to it that i ever thought there could be and i think that is fantastic – there are so many psychological things about do it for me so anything that adds to the wonderful mess of sexual fantasy in my head gets a big tick in my book.

That constant psychological trigger is what leads to the second point – its more of a trigger for the second point i guess, the constant arousal. The two sorta go hand in hand i think – being aroused by the cage gets me all thinking about how submissive i am, how submissive i can be, and how submissive i want to be – and when i think about those things i get aroused, its all a deliciously vicious cycle.

i’m hoping that as the wife and i start to figure out more of how this type of relationship can work for us that we can do it with me under lock and key – time will tell though.

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